by Glenn Stanton
There is much talk today – particularly in the same-sex marriage debate – that because marriage is a private institution, one should be able to marry whomever they love. The thinking goes that no one should be able to criticize what kind of marriage another wants to form, or if they want to form one altogether. Certainly marriage and family are private institutions, with deeply personal aspects, actions and feelings. But they are also very public institutions.
The first institution God established was a family. It was not a government, a business or an institution of learning. It is not even His body, the Church. Not yet.
So God creates humanity in two similar, yet very different, forms: male and female. And God immediately blessed them and commanded them to get busy doing things. This part of God’s Word is what is called the “cultural mandate,” the explanation of what God instructed the first humans to do – to be fruitful and reproduce after their own kind, to start a family from their union as man and wife.
God’s order – to fill the earth – serves both a personal and public purpose. So, is family a private or public institution? We can conclude that family is much more public than it is private. And it starts with marriage, which does four essential things that all societies need:
God created family, but leading thinkers also recognize its necessity for the health and safety of every community. The term “nuclear family” did not arise from the 1950s American suburbs, but from the Greek philosopher Aristotle. He explained in the first book of his classic work Politics that the family – mother, father, children – serves as the first building block of every society. From that nucleus comes the extended family, then the village, then the town, then the state.
Marriage and family are primary social goods, and are essential to human society.
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Glenn Stanton is the director of global family formation studies at Focus on the Family, and the co-author/co-creator of The Family Project, as well as the co-author (w/Leon Wirth) of The Family Project book.